Dealing With Doubt

In my attempt to make this blog more about healthy living and my life in general, as opposed to “here’s what I’m eating!”, I’ve decided to do a little more sharing. Bear with me while I explore!

Doubt is something that rears its ugly face in everyone’s life from time to time. Whether you’re doubting the outfit that you put on, the workout you might have skipped in favor of drinks with your friends, or the food you’re eating, it can butt into your life when you least expect it.

Over the last 2 years, I’ve lost 30 lbs and maintained that loss with a healthy lifestyle. I have also, however, found myself being questioned by family, friends, and co-workers.


Before & After

“Are you still losing weight?”
“Are you eating enough?”
“I’ve never heard of that.. that’s not real food!”

After a while, it can really start to take a toll. I’ve definitely started doubting myself because the people around me question my lifestyle. And to me, that seems counterproductive. Why question someone who is trying to take pride in making the effort to live a healthy life when you wouldn’t outwardly question another person who stops at McDonalds everyday?

I’m not asking for praise when I break out my apple that I brought to a baseball game, knowing that I would want one [you bet your butt I did!], but I’m also certainly not asking for criticism either.

Salmon salad and an apple at the O’s game. It’s how I roll.

I’ll eat what I want to eat and your eat what you want. If you want to learn more about quinoa or chia seeds or coconut oil, ask me. I’m more than happy to talk. But if you’re going to tell me that I need to eat a piece of cake, keep it to yourself. I’m not going to tell you to go eat rabbit food.

Remember that we all make our own decisions based on what we feel is right for us. Seriously, have you seen how much I eat? Don’t question or criticize without truly understanding because you don’t always know the whole story as you think you may.

In a post from MizFit the other day, she says the following:

We create ourselves and our lives.

I dont have good physical genetics.  My body prefers to be soft/not muscular.  I watched women with better genetics gain muscle swiftly and easily. I came to a crossroads where I could either grow jealous or grow focused.  I chose the latter.  Resistance training taught me I am the sculptor of my body and my life.  I may not achieve goals as rapidly as some— but if I work tenaciously & tirelessly I’m ensured of progress.

Not only can I relate to this statement, it really struck a chord with me and has stuck with me the past few days. I choose the latter too. I work hard and eat the way that I choose because it’s what I want and it’s what I enjoy.

Grow focused.

Confidence is something you’re born with. Doubt is something you learn. So it’s about time I forget the doubt and find the confidence because I’ve worked my ass off to get where I am and damnit, I freaking enjoy kale!

Bagbys Ten Ten Rockfish Baltimore Maryland MD

Why would anyone say no to that salad?!

Food for Thought

How do you deal with doubt from friends or family?

How do you deal with doubting yourself?

Link Love #8

I’m always so impressed with the quality of the posts that I see every week and this past week was no different. I never have any trouble picking out posts to share!


Food Is Joyous — Treat It As So - Wild Things RUN Free

Food Is Joyous — Treat It As So – Wild Things RUN Free

Food Is Joyous — Treat It As So – Wild Things RUN Free
The 5 Reasons You Are Not Seeing Results – HuffPost Healthy Living
What my daughter taught me about body image – Daily Life
41 Awesome Non-Food Rewards for Weight Loss – Anytime Health
Wicked Winter Squash with IBS and IBD – Sarah Kay Hoffman


20-Minute Hotel Room Workout - Peanut Butter Fingers

20-Minute Hotel Room Workout – Peanut Butter Fingers

20-Minute Hotel Room Workout – Peanut Butter Fingers
20-Minute Treadmill HIIT Workout – Blonde Ponytail
POP Pilates: Hot Abs – Blogilates
Frisky Fall Routine – Tone It Up
Muscle Ropes Review & Workout – Bess Be Fit
Some of My Favorite Back Exercises – Powercakes


Greek Gyro with Tzatziki Sauce - Brown Eyed Baker

Greek Gyro with Tzatziki Sauce – Brown Eyed Baker

Greek Gyro with Tzatziki Sauce – Brown Eyed Baker
Pumpkin Spice Whole Wheat English Muffins – A Kitchen Addiction
Warm Farro and Barley Cereal – Knead for Food
Cheesy Maple Roast Brussels Sprouts – Healthy Aperture
Chocolate Turtle Energy Bites – Lifting Revolution
Make Your Own Pumpkin Spiced Latte {gluten, grain, dairy, soy free} – Sarah Kay Hoffman

Food for Thought

What was your favorite post from last week?

Fabulous Fitness Survey

Marvelous is finding something you’re passionate about. Most recently for me, I’ve found a love for food and fitness so when I’ve seen this survey floating around the blogosphere, most recently on Tina and Julie‘s blogs, and thought it would be a fun one!

1. What did you eat for breakfast?

Well that’s kind of a silly question. I practically eat the same thing everyday!

Protein-Packed TVP Oats

2. How much water do you drink a day?

I’m usually pretty good about drinking around 12 glasses of water per day. The weekends tend to vary a bit, but I try to always carry around a water bottle when I go out.

3. What is your current favorite workout?

Best Body Bootcamp! I’m currently in my third round of BBBC and it keeps me in tip-top shape. I love that the workouts change every two weeks and they are all scalable to your level. It definitely helped me get wedding-ready and also helped me to get back to my pre-wedding shape after the honeymoon.

Tina Reale Best Body Bootcamp

4. How many calories do you eat a day?

I’ve stopped counting calories but based on what I know, I’d imagine anywhere between 1500-2000 per day.

5. What are your favorite healthy snacks?

When I’m at work, I love Greek yogurt.. the flavored kind or plain. But if I go for plain, I always add a little stevia, cinnamon, fresh fruit, and a little granola. Figs and cherries are my go-to fruits right now! I also have a slight addiction to bars. My top 3 are probably KIND Dark Chocolate Cinnamon Pecan, ThinkThin Chunky Peanut Butter bar, and LUNA Peanut Honey Pretzel. Or the Chocolate Dipped Coconut.. or have you tried the Carrot Cake bar yet?! Ha.

I also have an apple a day and if I’m home, I like to experiment with different snacks I find on Pinterest. One of my favorite finds is this No-Grain Maple Chia Cake from STUFTmama. She’s awesome 🙂

STUFTmama No Grain Maple Chia Cake Carob Chips Almonds Peanut Fluff

No-Grain Maple Chia Cake a la STUFTmama

6. What do you usually eat for lunch?

Salad. Lots and lots of salad! When I’m at work I usually do what I like to refer to as a “kitchen sink” salad.. basically I throw everything but the kitchen sink into a container and call it a day! On the weekends my schedule can get a little funky if we decide to do brunch, which ends up being around 11 am. But if that’s the case, let’s say I have eggs benedict for lunch!

Salads Eggs Benedict Vegetarian Sausage

7. What is your favorite body part to strength train?

I love a good upper body workout!

8. What is your least favorite body part to strength train?

Legs or back. Let’s go with back. I had 9 vertebrae fused when I was in high school due to scoliosis, so the middle part of my back doesn’t bend at all. It definitely gets frustrating trying to do the exercises and my back muscles are probably still the weakest on my body.

9. What are your “bad” food cravings?

I guess chocolate and froyo.. but they’re both fine in moderation! I see nothing wrong with a little treat here or there. If anything, I tend to go crazy on healthy foods like fruit and granola. [And peanut butter..]

10. Do you take vitamins or supplements?

I take probiotics, but I know I should also be taking other vitamins.

11. How often do you eat out?

We typically average dinner out Friday/Saturday and lunch on the weekends. Sometimes we’ll swap a weekend breakfast for lunch, but during the week I’m really good about bringing my lunch to work and making dinner at home.

12. Do you eat fast food?

Nah, it really doesn’t appeal to me. The last time I had fast food was our first meal in Italy on the honeymoon and I’ll never let Nathan live it down! Although, it was probably my healthiest meal of the trip.. I got a salad with grilled chicken.

McDonalds Italy

McDonalds in Italy

13. Who is your biggest supporter?

Nathan and my parents.

14. Do you have a gym membership?

No, we’re in a condo building and I’m lucky enough to have a great gym right downstairs. The only thing I miss is having classes.. I’d love to be a spin regular 🙂

15. How many hours of sleep do you get a night?

I average around 7 hours.

16. Do you have a “cheat” day?

I don’t really plan a “cheat” day, but it often ends up happening on weekends. I usually go for the salads when I go out to eat so I can splurge on other things [cough drinks and froyo cough].

17. Do you drink alcohol?

Oh, did you miss my last What I Ate Wednesday post? 😉

Asheville North Carolina NC Wedge Pigsah Highland French Broad Brewing Chai Pani Market Place Restaurant

Brewery tours in Asheville, NC

We’re not always that crazy.. there were just too many good options!

18. Do you have a workout buddy?

Do my weights count? Haha I sometimes workout with a friend but I typically like to push through my workouts and get ’em done!

19. What is the best thing that has changed about your life since committing to a healthy lifestyle?

I just feel better in general; physically and mentally. I used to have an angry stomach but since changing how I eat, I could probably count on one hand the number of times my stomach bothers me in a year. I also love finding a good workout program. It makes me excited to get into the gym and get a good sweat!

20. What was the last healthy thing you did?

I always get my early morning workouts in, but I’m especially excited about yesterday’s run. It had been over a month since I ran so I took it slow and steady and got in 6.5 miles with a 1 mile warm up/cool down. I kept my pace slower then normal, but this is also my longest run to date! It’s only up from here 🙂

Food for Thought

What did you eat for breakfast?
What are your favorite healthy snacks?
What is your favorite body part to strength train?
Who is your biggest supporter?